This past Saturday, we celebrated Abraham's one year homecoming. I am still in shock that it's already been a year - yet at the same time it's feels like he's always been with us. I was telling Tom today about a conversation I had with a nurse at the Dr.'s office. Here's the run-down.
Nurse: "So where did you get him from?" (I know she meant well and was trying to be kind, but that kinda erked me - "get him from?" Come on he's not a pet...)
Me: "Oh, we
adopted our son from Ethiopia. I can't believe it, but he's already been home a year."
Nurse: "That's so special...."
Then we both went on about how special adoption is and of course how cute Abraham is!
But, this conversation stirred something in me. I felt so protective of him. When she asked me where we "got" him from, it not only erked me but made me think... "Wow, Abraham hasn't been with us all of his life." How strange - he simply feels ALL mine... ALL my son, ALL my boy, ALL my goofball, ALL my temper tantrum thrower, ALL my rough and tumble boy, ALL my little fruit eater, ALL my gorgeous smile boy, ALL MINE. I know in my head that he has another birth mom, but it's hard to fathom that at the same time. I really feel like he's always been with me. It's not that I don't recognize, appreciate, love and am in awe of his birth mom - it's just that I am so attached and in love with this child that I can't ever imagine him NOT a part of this family. Needless to say, God has done a lot in the last year of Abraham being home.
I think back to when we first brought him home and how strange it felt that he was my son. It didn't feel like he was my son right away (just so you know I felt the same way with Lowa and Whittaker as well - I think I'm one of those freaks of nature as a mom - not instant attachment type). Anyway, it took us a while to get into our groove and try to understand each other, our quirks and how to make life work for us both. I remember thinking - three kids - this is NUTS (not that that's changed), but somehow, now it's just my new normal. I get tired and exhausted, but it's life - and I'm loving it. Don't get me wrong - there are PLENTY of days where I want to rip my hair out or take a week vacation, but overall God's brought a peace that I didn't think would ever come.
A year - what a crazy, fun-filled, exhausting, exhilarating, triumphant, humbling adventure it's been. I can only imagine what the next year will hold for us...
"Abraham, what a blessing God has brought to us through you! You are such a joy, you're determined and stubborn, you're goofy, your full of energy, you're such a sweet brother, you're a dancer and a mover, you have the best smile I've every seen, you're a cuddler, you're a loving and sensitive soul, you're MY son and I thank God for you daily. Thank you for being a part of our lives. I know God has great things in store for you my son. I'm just glad I get to be along for the adventure and have the privilege of seeing who He molds you into - what a treat! I love you my boy."
Abraham's first referral picture - look how tiny he is!
My favorite referral picture - seriously - look at those eyes!
Seeing our son for the first time - what an amazing, overwhelming and glorious day!
At Hannah's Hope in Ethiopia
Coming home and having solid food for the first time - you like the socks - nice!
My baby boy!
Getting older...
Look at those eyes - even though his face gets bigger - his eyes are still just as amazing!
The three caped crusaders
His teeth when they're just starting to grow in - so cute!
Always with the faces... that lip can stick out with the best of them!
Yum, yum - Goldfish!
My buddy!
I love this boy!
Underwear head - I think this picture makes him look so grown up - in a really goofy sort of way!
Sittin' in a box - a favorite around here...
At the park!
For his one year homecoming Abraham tried Ethiopian food for the first time! He thought it was ok... The biggest deal for him was that he DID NOT like getting his fingers messy. Sorry bud- such is Ethiopian cuisine :)!
Latest family picture. I love my family and am so thankful that God has brought us all together!
On a personal note, I just want you to know Tom that I think you are the most amazing father that I have had the privilege of knowing. To see you lead our family, show our children how to love your wife and to give yourself fully to them is such an incredible blessing not only to me but all who know you! You are a true example of what it means to seek God with all of your heart and show a Godly example to our family. Thank you for being the most amazing father to our three beautiful children! I love you Babe!!
